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Postpartum mothers or mother who just deliver baby generally experience stress to some degree. The study from the University of Durham, England find how hold a baby can be a key indicator whether new mother experience Depression (heavy stress) or normal stress.

The results of research conducted over a number of mothers and infants (average 7 months old) showed: 86% of mothers who did not show high levels of stress / Depression, more likely to hold her baby on the left. While almost half of the mothers who DEPRESSION, tend to hold the baby on the right.

“Many women/mothers do not realize or admit that she suffering from stress or Depression. The  mothers way`s or behave interact with there infants is the best indicator to overlook the mental condition of the mother. For example, the mother assume there baby is a naught children when the baby keep crying . while the fact is this is a normal condition of every  infants, “said the team leader study, Dr. Nadja Reissland, senior lecturer in the Faculty of Psychology University of Durham.

Depression is a mental disorder marked  with feeling gloomy, sad and depressed.if we compared this conditions with baby blues, postpartum Depression tends to be more severe,painful and actually need a treatment from doctor. to prevent this condition to occurred,this is some advice mother can try to block that depression getting worst

• Learn to calm and relaxed. Research shows, the newborn will form a better bond when the mother has a quiet and calm character. So spend as much as possible in 15 minutes a day to chill and relax,Yoga is one sample to build that calm character
* try to sleep tight.having good night sleep, will help the mother cope with feelings of distress.
* Assume the role as a mother is a new career. This new role could be better if you think and enjoy being parents as a new job role that will take place 24 hours a day.don’t get burden with that 24 hours job,you still have your sleep tight schedule anyway

* No need expecting yourself to be a perfect parents. No need to pull your self to be a perfectionist that will end to unrealistic action that will harmed the children

* Do not hesitate to ask help.no need feel ashamed to ask for help and don’t wait for the offered assistance from your partner.

* Be flexible. The presence of a new baby will affect the pattern of your daily life.for this situations,Instead of complaining, why not adapt yourself with the  current situation with a cute baby?
* Find a friend to share. You’ll feel better if you know other people have same feelings or same event with you. You can get guidance and help from someone who is more experienced in caring for babies.your mother ,grandparents,your aunties ,you named it,there are many successful mother around you
* Remember,the best will come for someone who strive with no stress. Forget for a moment the unpleasant things. Conversely, suppose that today is the best time in your life. Try to enjoy being a mother and lets see what happen in the end